September 11, 1981
September 11, 1981
Yesterday I was talking to some people from outside about the mind, people still stuck to materialism, who can’t get past points like: “I won’t do this because nobody is going to boss me around, nobody is going to dominate me…” They haven’t been able to overcome contesting.
“Nobody else will mess with me, I won’t be anyone’s pawn, now she won’t use me anymore, I have freed myself from her…”
I said to that person, “I think you haven’t freed yourself from her. One who really frees themselves from someone’s yoke, from a society, from anything, isn’t so worried about overcoming it as you are, since you still have to spend hours and hours thinking about how to react.”
The person agreed that, indeed, since they had to think, they still hadn’t overcome it.
What is the solution for this person? What can be done and how can it be considered overcome? Of course, we can give all of you the answer: When you overcome yourself, when you overcome your instinct of vengeance, your inferiority complex, when you understand that you don’t need to be more, that you can be an equal.
And then the person went on: “Give me proof that this training and studying the mind thing is good.”
“Look at the testimony! I train the mind. Look at my manifestations: I’m always joyful, happy, I help others, I’m financially accomplished. Of matter, I have what I want; of the spirit, I’m still studying… This is a proof. If you aren’t well in any area, it’s a sign that you haven’t been using your mind well. If you aren’t in plenitude in anything…!”
“Yes, but some people are lucky! You, for example, are happily married! A spouse favors the person’s well-being!”
“Those who use their mind are happy, not because there is someone beside them that favors their happiness. It’s not because I have a wonderful partner that I’m happy. On the contrary: because I’m happy, I have a great partner. The same with friends!”
These justifications: “If it weren’t for her or him…” No, you are the one who isn’t well. It’s because I’m happy that I’m lucky. People usually try to put happiness in external points, in other words, they are happy according to an external point. You, who use the mind, should know that it’s not the facts that happen fatally that will make you happy or unhappy. It is you who, being happy or unhappy, make the facts around you. It’s not the facts that will make you happy or unhappy. On the contrary, it’s you who being happy or unhappy, will build happy or unhappy circumstances.
Stop a bit on these small points. When you understand the philosophical aspect of this, when you go into this, you can improve a lot and have greater satisfactions.
Then, while talking to people in these terms, you’ll show that it is not because you were lucky that you’re accomplished in your career or in life, but because you make every part of your life full. And of this you can give testimony.